the less we learn about them;
the less we know about them,
the more uncomfortable we feel among them;
the more uncomfortable we feel among them,
the more inclined we are to withdraw.
~ Craig Storti (Duane, Elmer - “Cross-Cultural Connections” - p. 43)
Well, I knew it couldn’t be because of my adapter; I discarded it as soon as I saw sparks from when I had accidentally got water in it. Nor was I standing at the top of a nearby hill to get struck by this mornings’ lightening. Yet there wasn’t a shadow of a doubt, I’d been shocked.
Culture shock.
My feet have navigated the gravel roads of Oxford, New Zealand and I have eaten refried beans for breakfast in Tecate, Mexico. I have strolled along the Ganges River in Varanasi, India, and marveled at the bustling markets in Istanbul, Turkey. I have even been immersed in the culture of Oakland, California’s inner city. I must have experienced some level of culture shock in each of these places, but other than in India, I believe it mostly went unnoticed.
Is it the length of time in Africa that has heightened the shock for me now? Is it the simple fact that I have ventured here alone? Or is it the intensity of poverty that I see almost daily? I know that in India it was the beggar’s hands that I hid from in my hotel room; I just didn’t know how to deal with their constant asking. And although Africa rarely requests the change in my pocket, she sure does ask other things of me.
I have always thought of myself as the sort of person who loves to engage with new cultures, enjoying the give and take; the learning and changing…yet I find myself often withdrawing and unwilling (maybe just unable?) to give what is being petitioned of me. I believe that I am still that open, adventurous and inquisitive person, and more importantly, I believe that God has a purpose for my being in Africa, but the culture shock that I now feel threatens to keep me uncomfortable and withdrawn. It saddens me to think that it could also hinder what God wants to do in and through me here.
Now as you read this, please be gentle. I have had to bestow much grace on myself since this recent enlightenment, and would humbly appreciate it from you also. Yet, I am writing this for your reading for these four reasons: 1) So that maybe I would better understand what I am feeling by writing it out and sharing it; 2) So that those who have been in this place can offer some advice or encouragement; 3) So that you can be praying for me; and 4) So that God will get all the praise as you read my blogs in the coming months and see how he has been faithfully leading, helping and changing me.
I do want to mention that, despite how I am feeling right now, there have been some very beautiful moments in my last month and a half here in Uganda. I am learning the language mpola mpola (bit by bit), I have come to love the days spent at the Street Boy Shelter, and I have been able to experience many parts of Ugandan life. I just pray that these beautiful moments will become more frequent and the moments when I want to hide in the hotel will occur less and less.
My hope is in Jesus, my constant and unchanging friend.